So I’m a Misfit – Now What?

weird randomSince I can remember I have donned the attitude that it’s okay to be different. Well, okay, not in Grade 7 when I was called maggot lips. Those cold sores of mine made me a little TOO different! By the time I hit high school I didn’t care that some of my comrades deemed me a nerd, uncool, part of the ‘not it’ crowd. I was happy to be me.

Quirky, random, weird. I don’t want to lead a boring life or be remembered as having a dull personality…or just plain not be remembered. Chart my own path, do things differently, live without a box (not just outside of one), that’s what I think I want. Yet why am I sitting here wishing I could fit in – just once?

As a 47 year old mom with young children (whoa, I better publish this before I have to say 48 in a couple of weeks!) , I look at the friends my age who are all empty nesters and off to wherever … whenever … pursuing their lifelong passions. I’m mostly happy for them, but it kinda bugs me some days. Then I look at those younger than me with same aged children and again I feel like a misfit. I’m ‘too old’  for that crowd, even though in our society we say age is just a number. In my experience it’s just not true.

Think about it. When someone dates a person much younger they get called cat names. If they date someone much older they get labelled a gold digger. So the moral to that story is if you don’t want to be judged or don’t happen to connect with someone of a suitable age,  just stay single…but wait…even that isn’t acceptable because then you’re missing out somehow.

What areas in life do you make assumptions about or judge people on? Think about it.

Now remember, I’m the one who likes to be different. At least I keep telling myself that.


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  1. #1 by Ed DeCosta on September 17, 2012 - 4:09 am

    Great post Shandra! You’re the definition of cool now. 🙂

    • #2 by shandracarlson on September 17, 2012 - 7:18 am

      HA and when Ed says I’m cool, there’s no arguing it now, is there?! Thank you. 🙂

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    "Here's to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round heads in the square holes. The ones who see things differently. They're not fond of rules, and they have no respect for the status quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify, or vilify them. But the only thing you can't do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do." ~ Jack Kerouac
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